Living in Denmark this Indonesian ex journalist, now engineer, wondered why on earth a number of her female compatriots in Copenhagen seemed to be so subservient to their western partners:
“I discovered that most of them (at least five out of six) gave me the same answer when I called / sent them sms / email asking when they could be available for a meet up downtown. The answer that (almost) all of them gave me was:
“I have to ask permission from my husband first and then I will let you know…….”
I can’t give an explanation for this kind of attitude. Or rather lack of attitude. I think however that by chance “the writer” -which is her blogger alias- did hit upon an almost improbable number of exceptions to the rule. No woman in her right mind – white, black or brown- should choose for obedience. No man either, for that matter. If it happens obedience turns you on, you should join the army in stead of entering into a marriage. Of course there are a few of these nasty pathetic men who sort of buy a subservient wife or mistress. A restricted number of suitable cases for treatment, if you ask me.
But Independent minds, that’s what we want, that’s the fashion. If in doubt, I strongly advise all wannebe emigrants to this hemisphere, to check on our national Queen of Rock ‘n Roll, Anouk. She is grrrrrl power in the flesh. And a terrific performer. That she is world famous in the Netherlands only, means shame on the rest of the world.
Now here are three version of her “Nobody’s Wife” – the first from 1997, the last one from 2008. No obedience or messing around, not in her lyrics, nor in the music. Great Rock ‘Roll, strong message.
Here’s the one from 1997, which is the “official”, artsy one:
Because the message is relevant en she is GOOD, one more time. This is in a total different, Reggae style. Recorded by the way, in the famous “Concertgebouw” in Amsterdam:
And last but not least and in order to never to forget her, a very recent live performance of this year – she may be ten years older, but still is our devastating rocking Queen:
Obedient women: gear for the struggle. And Amy Whinehouse: eat your heart out.
Oh, before I forget, this is where you can find the “official Anouk”. Including “modern world” which is a witty comment on what has been going on lately for women ( and men). The song on her new album with huge hit potential, I think.